[at-l] Hiking and Divorce

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In a message dated 2007-06-13 07:48:21 Eastern Daylight Time,  
lthompson at hollins.edu writes:

Spouses,  take this as a warning.  If your mate wants to separate,
whether under  the guise of a long hike or whatever, you can bet they
won't be sexually  faithful.  The biological imperative will see to  that.



A rather pessimistic view.  But, consider this -- A hike is a  hike.  The 
relationship may vary over time but it is not the hike that  changes it.  Don't 
want to be with your spouse when they go hiking?   Why not?  Participating in 
each other's points of interest is a good way to  share the joy of marriage. 
 
Confident in the marriage?  Then the ebb and flow of life will bring  renewed 
interest in each other as new topics of conversation provide fodder for  
mutual growth.  There are many faithful spouses who hike and it is not the  hike 
that causes infidelity.  The cause for cheating lies in the myriad  moments of 
the day-to-day marriage.  Sloppiness, nagging, criticism, piling  on the 
"ought to," and getting even or attempting to control the other partner  in the 
marriage are things that can drive a wedge in a relationship.   Possessive people 
have difficulty letting their spouses enjoy time apart.   In the clinging or 
glomming lay the seeds of true separation.  Some hike  and keep contact with 
those they love.  Some are relieved to at last, be  alone.  
 
It is not the hike that is the problem.
 
Jack Skylander



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