[at-l] Hiking and Divorce

[Linda Benschop]

"Any individual that felt the need for this attention from another person 
OBVIOUSLY was having marital problems to begin with."

Marsha,

I think you hit the nail on the head.  Marital problems don't just start on the trail.  If you have a healthy marriage at home, why wouldn't you still have one after you hike?  Cheaters cheat and, if that is what they do, it won't matter where they are.  

My husband and I had planned a thru hike in 2003.  Then Jan had a serious back injury.  He can do a short day hike (which still causes a great deal of pain) but no more sections.  Since then, I have done some hiking with friends for a few days at a time.  But I don't want to be away from my husband long enough to do a thru hike.  That is my personal choice.  It was something that we planned and were looking forward to doing together.  I know that he would encourage and support me if I made the decision to go.  But I would miss him too much!

I admire people who do a thru when their spouse is not interested in hiking.  That doesn't mean that they have a bad marriage.  Just think about Hopeful whose wife does not want to hike.  Yet she supported and encouraged him through the entire hike.  She trusted him even when he called from a hotel room he was sharing with some young women hikers.  In a marriage you must have trust....when you are together and when you are apart.  If you do not have that it isn't going to last anyhow.

Hummingbird 








Marsha Lee wrote:
> I love how some men view a womans' needs...
>
> The paragraph reads: she developed a relationship with a hiker. NOT 
> "sleeping with a bunch of men"....BIG DIFFERENCE. "Whore?" Wow - they still 
> use that term? Wonder what they call a man? "Precious?"
>
> Any individual that felt the need for this attention from another person 
> OBVIOUSLY was having marital problems to begin with.
>
> You never know where the road will take you....nor would I judge anyone that 
> took the wrong road.
>
> Marsha
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>> From: Bedrock Bob <bedrockbbob at yahoo.com>
>> To: at-l at backcountry.net
>> Subject: Re: [at-l] Hiking and Divorce
>> Date: Tue, 12 Jun 2007 21:27:59 -0700 (PDT)
>>
>> Figures.  A married woman's place is at home with her husband, not sleeping 
>> in the woods with a bunch of strange men like some whore.  Spouses, take 
>> this as a warning.  If your mate wants to separate, whether under the guise 
>> of a long hike or whatever, you can bet they won't be sexually faithful.  
>> The biological imperative will see to that.
>>
>> Dust <pctttdust at yahoo.com> wrote:
>>
>> Brings to mind a story I heard about what happened on the AT a few years 
>> ago.  Seems there was this married woman who developed a "friendship" with 
>> a male hiker.  It turned into more than a friendship and was no secret on 
>> the trail.  The non-hiking husband would sometimes visit the wife on the 
>> trail, and pretend her lover was just a friend.  Other hikers began to 
>> despise this cheating wife, and eventually someone ratted her out to her 
>> husband.  As you can predict, that marriage ended in divorce shortly 
>> thereafter.
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