[pct-l] Obtaining a leave of absence (from marriage)

[Handy Husband for Hire, Inc.]

My wife and I had a non-verbal pre-nup.  She knew of my passion so she
agreed that I could spend the first two summers of marriage on the PCT.  In
Aqua-Dulce, I met Donna when I was on the phone with my wife wishing her a
happy first anniversary.  That year I made it up to HWY 58 (Onyx) about 650
miles after a June start. My wife doesn't hike either, but the importance
here is to reciprocate your wife's passion(s).  My ten year wedding
anniversary is coming up this June.  Although I am a section hiker of the
PCT, my wife did give me the thumbs up and now she asks me what my plans
are.

Sibex

-----Original Message-----
From: pct-l-bounces at backcountry.net [mailto:pct-l-bounces at backcountry.net]
On Behalf Of Jeffrey Olson
Sent: Sunday, February 22, 2009 3:09 PM
Cc: pct-l at backcountry.net
Subject: Re: [pct-l] Obtaining a leave of absence (from marriage)

Now, how about similar perspectives on how a married person interested 
in long distance hiking tells his or her partner s/he wants to do a five 
month hike when s/he knows the partner has no interest in hiking that 
far, or hiking at all!!! 

Jeffrey Olson
Martin, SD

Erik The Black wrote:
> Here are a few tips that may help with negotiating a leave of absence with
> your boss:
>
> 1) Play out all of the possible outcomes in your head beforehand. What
will
> you do if your request is denied? Are there concessions you can make to
get
> them to yes? Are you willing to resign? Are you willing to bluff? What
will
> you do if your bluff is called?
>
> 2) Talk mostly about what the company has to gain by granting your
request,
> or what they have to lose if they deny it. Don't make it all about you.
Make
> it about them.
>
> 3) Have a response prepared for every objection. Don't go in there on just
a
> wing and a prayer. Here are some common objections to have answers for: 
>
> **The Brush Off**
>
> 	"But we really need you here right now. Can you put it off for
> another 	few years?" 
>
> **The Veiled Threat**
>
> 	"The economy is tough right now, many people are unemployed. Are you
> sure you want to give up your job?"
>
> **The Guilt Trip**
>
> 	"How can you do this to us right now? Haven't we always treated you
> well? Who will do your work while you are gone?"
>
> **The Ultimatum**
>
> 	"I'm sorry, but it's simply not possible at this time. It's beyond
> my 	control."
>
> 4) Keep it friendly and professional. Even if your request is denied and
you
> have to resign, leave on good terms. Let them know that when you return
you
> may be interested in working for them again, and that you will contact
them
> at the appropriate time to inquire about their needs.
>
> 5) If your request is denied and you are not willing to resign try to get
> them to agree to a specific date in the future, like the following year.
And
> hold them to it!
>
> You never want to leave the negotiation table without getting something,
> even if it's not exactly what you really wanted. If you walk out
> empty-handed you will have set a precedent and established yourself as
> someone who can be easily dismissed, and your future requests will carry
> less weight.
>
>
> Good luck!
>
>
> Erik The Black
> Author & Publisher
> Pacific Crest Trail Atlas
> www.pctatlas.com
>
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